now many parents will have such a feeling, it is too difficult to control the child. But some parents only look for the results of their children, but forget to look back to see if I have made a mistake in the process of making a child. Let's ask you and Xiaobian of international online English training organization to see 20 bad habits that parents must not be able to bring up in their children's progress.
bad habits 1: patience
busy work pressure, return the home to see the children quarrel, you couldn't help yelling: "how often I cry! Don't cry, really annoying!"
tip: a self esteem and respect other children, is certainly to lose respect for adults.
bad habits 2: no escape
married for many years, you and your lover is often some trifles things in front of the children on fire.
tip: friendly, favoured us, provides a against sex bad model for children. Bad habits 3:
you too "generous" thrifty, reluctant to buy me new clothes, but the children are very generous, never taught him to save.
hints: our "love" will make the child know only to lose, and do not know how to pay.
bad habits 4: do not care about
. Every day when you come home from work, you always ask the child habitually: "how is it going to be in kindergarten tomorrow?" and ask, busy with cooking, straighten up the room, perhaps read the newspaper.
hints: our behavior is like telling the child that I don't care for your answer. As a result, the children feel not respectful from us and learn to prevaricate.
bad habits 5: do not admit
, your children quarrel with other kids for grabbing toys, your punishment is a bit heavy, but you think: parents must be different from each other, so they never give up.
: let's make a mistake, refused to admit, the children also follow a mistake in the end.
bad habits 6: love to complain
friend Miss, you blame on the children and the wife: "at present, don't ignore him."
hints: when you see your child in the face of despair, we do not actively think of ways to deal with achievements, but just blame and complain others.
bad habit 7: no entertainment
children quarrel to tell him stories, but you always keep busy with the rest of the event.
reminds us: our behavior has made children clear a sense: only work without entertainment in family life, only housework in family has no games.
bad habits 8: love argument
you and your children are waiting in the supermarket to pay for it. A woman stands in the back of you. You and her practice, initially favoured up.
hints: our way of training children's false social skills is to make children mistakenly believe that quarrels, abuse and even fight are good ways to deal with conflicts.
bad habits: 9, you lie dodge
are members of the parent committee, the teacher asked you to write a few articles in the park newspaper. But you are very busy. At first you call the teacher and tell her you are ill and let her find the rest of the parents to write again.
tip: no attempt to shrink, the children learned to promise behind him, and so I lie on an easily.
bad habit 10: the way of a spouse's good word,
's way of marriage finally goes to the end, and your heart is filled with hatred for the other side. So you on the 6 year old daughter to enumerate the other party is not informed, and her daughter: "Daddy / mommy don't you, since you can not ignore him / her."
hints: in doing so, the child learns to hate and retaliate, and the greater achievement is that she will not be determined for the happiness of her life.
bad habits 11: too tolerant
one day, you suddenly find love affair! You suffer, you told me: "only he / she is also the home on the line, you figure what, is not to give children a good home?": a
prompt looks like a good home our "good" construction, do not give children enough warmth and love.
bad habits 12: don't respect
. Your mother-in-law has blocked everything in marriage. So after marriage, you never filial piety to the elderly, nor bring your son to play with the old man, and often curse the old man in front of the child. Note:
does not establish the model for filial children, then one day you will come to the consequences of my head!
bad habits 13: throw things
you always used to easily throw things, his wife will put all things you might throw are packed, you don't need to worry about that.
hints: in this way, children also form the habit of pushing all the responsibilities to others.
caused by bad habits as you at home always encourage children to learn Kong Rong lets pear, while on the bus but with the elderly, children grab seats, perhaps in the "stop into the sign to let children climb to the sculpture pose.
tip: let's say a set, do a set of children grow up will be very difficult to my moral integrity.
bad habits 15: love match
you always say to the child: "who how, he is stronger than you!"
note: we always use the standard to measure other children my children, the children will focus on others and compared, after growing up, things can easily by other people effect.
bad habit 16: a traffic jam on the unordered
road. You drove the car from the emergency parking lot. The 5 year old daughter asked you, "Why are we going this way?" you said, "there's no police, there's no camera, it's all right."
hints: when we do not violate the surveillance, the child learns that nothing can be done without being caught.
bad habits 17: overtake
, you are busy in the kitchen, the 6 year old son went out to help, you hurriedly put the child out of the kitchen: "go and go, children do not" too many things right away ", while staying.
hints: "love" to our children, let the children think that all are parents.
bad habits 18: not convinced
to eat when you are in front of the children went to inform mountain lover: "Wang promotion, he had nothing, not knowing some computer......"
tip: we don't deny me better than others, the child learns to self-centered, lazy.
bad habits of 19: the suppression of initiative
5 year old son tried to open an alarm clock at all, you don't angry by: "what children understand? No touch!"
tip: simply say "no" to destroy the parent-child relationship, suppress children's initiative, forcing them into the "open flow".
bad habits 20: even cheat belt frighten
daughter to fight to buy Bobbi doll, you want to prohibit her, even the cheat belt frightens: "do not obey, the police come to catch you", "do not obey, father and mother do not want you."
hints: when the child confirmed "I was cheated", no longer believe the child's words...