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掌门一对一:儿童成长过程中父母一定不能有的20个坏习惯

发布于 2018-06-06 18:19

  如今很多家长都会有这样的觉得,那就是孩子太难管了。但是有些家长却只顾着找孩子身上存在的成绩,却忘了回头看看本人在造就孩子的进程中有没有出错。上面咱们就请大家和国际在线英语培训机构——的小编一同看看家长在造就孩子的进程中肯定不能有的20个坏习气吧!

  坏习气1:不耐心

  工作忙碌压力大,回到家看到孩子又吵又闹,你终于忍不住大吼起来:“怎样老是哭啊哭啊!别哭了,真是个烦人精!”

  提示:一个自尊并且尊重别人的孩子,肯定是先失去成人的尊重。

  坏习气2:不逃避

  结婚多年,你和爱人常常为一些鸡毛蒜皮的大事当着孩子的面吵翻天。

  提示:咱们的友好、争持,给孩子提供了一个攻打性行为的坏楷模。

  坏习气3:太“慷慨”

  你节俭持家,舍不得给本人买新衣服,可是对孩子却很慷慨,从不教他节省。

  提示:咱们的这种“爱”,会使孩子只懂得失去,不懂得付出。

  坏习气4:不关怀

  每天你上班回到家里,总是习气性地问孩子:“明天在幼儿园里过得怎样样?”一边问,一边忙着做饭,整顿房间,或许看报纸。

  提示:咱们的行为如同在通知孩子:我并不关怀你的答案。于是,孩子从咱们身上感触到了不被尊重,并学会搪塞他人。

  坏习气5:不认错

  你的孩子为抢夺玩具而跟别的小冤家吵架,你的惩罚有些过重了,可是你想:父母言行要前后分歧,于是从不把话发出。

  提示:咱们犯了谬误,拒不认错,孩子也跟着一错到底。

  坏习气6:爱埋怨

  冤家爽约,你对孩子和妻子埋怨:“当前别再理他了。”

  提示:你让孩子看到,在面对绝望的时分,咱们没有踊跃地想方法处理成绩,只是一味责备和抱怨他人。

  坏习气7:不文娱

  孩子吵着要你给他讲故事,可你总是不停地忙着其余的事件。

  提示:咱们的行为举止使孩子明确了一个“情理”:生存中只有工作没有文娱,家庭中只有家务没有游戏。

  坏习气8:爱争论

  你和孩子排队在超市等着付款。一位妇女插队站在了你的后面。你与她实践,最初争持了起来。

  提示:咱们的做法对孩子进行了谬误的社交技艺训练,使孩子误认为吵架、谩骂乃至打架都是处理抵触的好方法。

  坏习气9:扯谎、推托

  你是幼儿园家长委员会的成员,教师请你帮忙写几篇小文章用在园报上。可是你不断很忙,起初你打电话给教师,通知她你病了,让她再找其余家长来写。

  提示:没有尝试就先畏缩,孩子学会了把允诺抛之脑后,靠扯谎而使本人轻易推托。

  坏习气10:说配偶好话

  婚姻之路终于走到了止境,你心中充溢了对另一方的仇恨。于是你对6岁的女儿历数另一方的不是,并且通知女儿:“爸爸/妈妈不要你了,你从此再也不要理他/她。”

  提示:这样做,孩子学会了恨和报复,更大的成绩是,她会对本人终身的幸福都没有决心。

  坏习气11:太容忍

  某一天,你忽然发现爱人有外遇了!你容忍,你通知本人:“只需他/她还要这个家就行了,你还图什么呢,不就是要给孩子一个完好的家吗?”

  提示:咱们“好心”营建的一个貌似完好的家,并不能给孩子足够的暖和和爱。

  坏习气12:不敬老

  在结婚成绩上,你的婆婆已经百般阻遏,于是,婚后你从不孝顺老人,也从不带儿子去老人那里玩,背地里还常常当着孩子的面咒骂老人。

  提示:不为孩子树立孝顺的楷模,那么总有一天恶果会来临到你本人头上!

  坏习气13:乱丢货色

  你总是习气顺手乱丢货色,妻子会把你顺手乱丢的所有货色都拾掇好,素来不需求你操心。

  提示:这样,孩子也会养成把所有责任都推给他人的习气。

  坏习气14:言行一致致

  你在家总是激励孩子学习孔融让梨,而在公共汽车上却与老人、儿童抢位子,或许在“制止入内”的牌子下让孩子爬到雕塑上摆pose。

  提示:咱们说一套,做一套,孩子长大后会很难据守本人的品德操守。

  坏习气15:爱比拟

  你总是对孩子说:“谁谁怎么怎么,他比你强!”

  提示:咱们总是用别的小孩的规范来权衡本人的孩子,这会使孩子把留意力放在和他人比拟上,长大之后做事就会轻易受其余人影响。

  坏习气16:无次序

  路上又堵车了。你将车从紧急停车道上开了过来。前面5岁的女儿问你:“为什么咱们走这边?”你说:“这儿没警察,也没有摄像头,没关系的。”

  提示:当咱们在没人监视时违规,孩子就学会:只需不被抓住,做什么都能够。

  坏习气17:过火爱护

  你在厨房里忙得热气腾腾,6岁的儿子钻出去想帮忙,你连忙把孩子推出厨房:“去去去,小孩子不要‘多管正事’,一边呆着去。”

  提示:咱们对孩子的“爱护”,让孩子以为所有都是父母的事。

  坏习气18:不信服

  吃饭时,你当着孩子的面愤愤不高山通知爱人:“小王升职了,他有啥了不起的,不就懂些电脑吗……”

  提示:咱们不抵赖本人不如他人,孩子就学会以自我为中心,不思进取。

  坏习气19:压制能动性

  5岁的儿子试图拆开一只闹钟看个终究,你不由怒发冲冠:“小孩子懂什么?不准乱动!”

  提示:简略地说“不”只能毁坏亲子关系,压制孩子的能动性,迫使他们转入“公开流动”。

  坏习气20:连骗带吓

  女儿吵着要买芭比娃娃,你想禁止她,就连骗带吓地说:“不听话,警察来抓你了”、“不听话,爸爸妈妈不要你了。”

  提示:当孩子证实“本人被骗了”,当前就不再置信小孩儿的话了……

now many parents will have such a feeling, it is too difficult to control the child. But some parents only look for the results of their children, but forget to look back to see if I have made a mistake in the process of making a child. Let's ask you and Xiaobian of international online English training organization to see 20 bad habits that parents must not be able to bring up in their children's progress.

bad habits 1: patience

busy work pressure, return the home to see the children quarrel, you couldn't help yelling: "how often I cry! Don't cry, really annoying!"

tip: a self esteem and respect other children, is certainly to lose respect for adults.

bad habits 2: no escape

married for many years, you and your lover is often some trifles things in front of the children on fire.

tip: friendly, favoured us, provides a against sex bad model for children. Bad habits 3:

you too "generous" thrifty, reluctant to buy me new clothes, but the children are very generous, never taught him to save.

hints: our "love" will make the child know only to lose, and do not know how to pay.

bad habits 4: do not care about

. Every day when you come home from work, you always ask the child habitually: "how is it going to be in kindergarten tomorrow?" and ask, busy with cooking, straighten up the room, perhaps read the newspaper.

hints: our behavior is like telling the child that I don't care for your answer. As a result, the children feel not respectful from us and learn to prevaricate.

bad habits 5: do not admit

, your children quarrel with other kids for grabbing toys, your punishment is a bit heavy, but you think: parents must be different from each other, so they never give up.

: let's make a mistake, refused to admit, the children also follow a mistake in the end.

bad habits 6: love to complain

friend Miss, you blame on the children and the wife: "at present, don't ignore him."

hints: when you see your child in the face of despair, we do not actively think of ways to deal with achievements, but just blame and complain others.

bad habit 7: no entertainment

children quarrel to tell him stories, but you always keep busy with the rest of the event.

reminds us: our behavior has made children clear a sense: only work without entertainment in family life, only housework in family has no games.

bad habits 8: love argument

you and your children are waiting in the supermarket to pay for it. A woman stands in the back of you. You and her practice, initially favoured up.

hints: our way of training children's false social skills is to make children mistakenly believe that quarrels, abuse and even fight are good ways to deal with conflicts.

bad habits: 9, you lie dodge

are members of the parent committee, the teacher asked you to write a few articles in the park newspaper. But you are very busy. At first you call the teacher and tell her you are ill and let her find the rest of the parents to write again.

tip: no attempt to shrink, the children learned to promise behind him, and so I lie on an easily.

bad habit 10: the way of a spouse's good word,

's way of marriage finally goes to the end, and your heart is filled with hatred for the other side. So you on the 6 year old daughter to enumerate the other party is not informed, and her daughter: "Daddy / mommy don't you, since you can not ignore him / her."

hints: in doing so, the child learns to hate and retaliate, and the greater achievement is that she will not be determined for the happiness of her life.

bad habits 11: too tolerant

one day, you suddenly find love affair! You suffer, you told me: "only he / she is also the home on the line, you figure what, is not to give children a good home?": a

prompt looks like a good home our "good" construction, do not give children enough warmth and love.

bad habits 12: don't respect

. Your mother-in-law has blocked everything in marriage. So after marriage, you never filial piety to the elderly, nor bring your son to play with the old man, and often curse the old man in front of the child. Note:

does not establish the model for filial children, then one day you will come to the consequences of my head!

bad habits 13: throw things

you always used to easily throw things, his wife will put all things you might throw are packed, you don't need to worry about that.

hints: in this way, children also form the habit of pushing all the responsibilities to others.

14:

caused by bad habits as you at home always encourage children to learn Kong Rong lets pear, while on the bus but with the elderly, children grab seats, perhaps in the "stop into the sign to let children climb to the sculpture pose.

tip: let's say a set, do a set of children grow up will be very difficult to my moral integrity.

bad habits 15: love match

you always say to the child: "who how, he is stronger than you!"

note: we always use the standard to measure other children my children, the children will focus on others and compared, after growing up, things can easily by other people effect.

bad habit 16: a traffic jam on the unordered

road. You drove the car from the emergency parking lot. The 5 year old daughter asked you, "Why are we going this way?" you said, "there's no police, there's no camera, it's all right."

hints: when we do not violate the surveillance, the child learns that nothing can be done without being caught.

bad habits 17: overtake

, you are busy in the kitchen, the 6 year old son went out to help, you hurriedly put the child out of the kitchen: "go and go, children do not" too many things right away ", while staying.

hints: "love" to our children, let the children think that all are parents.

bad habits 18: not convinced

to eat when you are in front of the children went to inform mountain lover: "Wang promotion, he had nothing, not knowing some computer......"

tip: we don't deny me better than others, the child learns to self-centered, lazy.

bad habits of 19: the suppression of initiative

5 year old son tried to open an alarm clock at all, you don't angry by: "what children understand? No touch!"

tip: simply say "no" to destroy the parent-child relationship, suppress children's initiative, forcing them into the "open flow".

bad habits 20: even cheat belt frighten

daughter to fight to buy Bobbi doll, you want to prohibit her, even the cheat belt frightens: "do not obey, the police come to catch you", "do not obey, father and mother do not want you."

hints: when the child confirmed "I was cheated", no longer believe the child's words...